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Grateful

By: Jennifer Thomsen

Thanksgiving is a good time to be reminded we should be thankful. We have much to be thankful for, but sometimes we just don’t have an attitude of gratitude. Teen years are hard, and other girls can be mean.

First Samuel 1 and 2 tells the story of Hannah. Hannah desperately wanted a baby. She went to the temple and pleaded with God. Eli, the priest, thought she was drunk. After talking to Hannah, Eli told Hannah to go in peace, that God would grant her request. God gave Hannah a son, whom she named Samuel.

In Chapter 2, we find Hannah praising God for His goodness. This happens right before she left young Samuel to serve at the temple with Eli. I admit, my heart would have been breaking to know what was about to happen. Yet, Hannah kept a thankful spirit.

Here are some important lessons we can learn from Hannah: she spent time with God. When she had a problem, she took it to God. She let God see her for who she truly was. Hannah didn’t try to hide her emotions; she left it all on the altar. Hannah believed God would answer her prayers, and she put her faith and trust completely in Him.

Since thankfulness is taught throughout the Bible, here are a few suggestions to help us be more thankful.

  • For each day in November, list one thing you are thankful for.
  • Keep a gratitude journal for a year. List several things each day for which you are thankful. Number your list, so at the end of the year, you can see how many reasons you have to be thankful. Your list should contain things both big and small.  
  • Have a thankful jar. Use any container you like and fill it with craft sticks on which you have written things you are thankful for. When you are not feeling thankful, pull a stick and remember God’s blessings.

God wants us to have an attitude of thankfulness. In Luke 17: 11-19, we find the story of Jesus healing the ten lepers. While ten lepers were healed, only one returned to thank Jesus for his healing. I wonder how many times I have been one of the nine who forgot to thank God.

For Adults

Gratitude

By: Jennifer Thomsen

November is known as the month for giving thanks. But if we can be grateful for one month, why don’t we maintain an attitude of gratitude year-round? How can we help our girls if we aren’t maintaining a grateful spirit ourselves? We will always encounter times in our lives when bad things happen, and we just don’t feel like being thankful. We can do some things before hard times hit to help us stay thankful.

We can learn a lot from Hannah in 1 Samuel 1-2. In chapter 1, we see a very distraught Hannah. Hannah wanted a baby more than anything. She did the only thing she knew to do; she went to the temple and pleaded with God. I’m not sure if few people were praying in the temple, or if it was her profound burden and emotions that made Eli think she was drunk. Eli told her to go in peace, that God would grant her request. And He did.

Chapter 2 starts with a prayer from Hannah. She proclaimed God’s goodness for 11 verses. Hannah praised God right before leaving her young son, her answer to prayer, at the Temple to serve with Eli. As a mom, my heart would have been breaking to know what was about to happen. I would be a hot mess! Not Hannah. She was thankful and took time to express her thankfulness to God.

From Hannah, we learn some simple lessons about gratitude that we can apply to our lives and teach our girls. Hannah spent time with God. When she had a problem, she took it to God. She let God see her for who she truly was. Hannah didn’t try to hide her emotions; she left it all on the altar. Hannah believed God would answer her prayers, and she put her faith and trust completely in Him.

First Thessalonians 5:16 -18 tells us to rejoice always, pray without ceasing, and give thanks in everything. This is nothing new. In the Old Testament, the concept of giving thanks is described over a hundred times, and thankfulness comes up 71 times in the New Testament. If thankfulness is so prevalent throughout the entire Word of God, shouldn’t we practice gratitude every day in our own lives?

Here are a few suggestions to start being more thankful:

  • For each day of November, list one thing for which you are thankful. This may be a something that continues after November ends.
  • One thing I started this year is a gratitude journal. I list several things a day I am thankful for. Make sure to number the list, so that at the end of the year, you can look back and see how many things you are thankful for. This list has so many possibilities. If I experience something new or extra fun, I list it. When I witness God at work in a situation, I write it down. Even everyday things I take for granted are listed, such as glasses, medicine, or even heat or air conditioning.

These suggestions will help you focus on things for which you are grateful, but what about when hard times come your way? Living with an everyday attitude of gratitude will help you, for sure, but several years ago my daughter gave me a present that helps remember good things when I’m just not feeling thankful. It’s a mason jar with craft sticks in it. My daughter started the collection by writing down things she saw in me for which she was thankful. I have added to the jar when I think of things. When I’m feeling blue, I just read as many craft sticks as needed to remind me I have so much to be thankful for. When we have the correct mind of thankfulness ourselves, we can teach and model for our students how they can also cultivate their own spirit of gratitude.

God likes for us to have an attitude of thankfulness. In Luke 17:11-19, we find the story of Jesus healing the ten lepers. What a remarkable and sad story. Ten lepers were healed, but only one returned to thank Jesus for being healed. I wonder how many times I have been one of the nine who forgot to thank God for something. My wish, both for myself and you, is that you not only remember to thank God for the big and small blessings, but that you help your girls start this practice at a young age.

For Girls

Searching for Good Friendship

By: Catherine Blades

Can I tell you a story? I want to tell you about a young girl who desperately sought a good friendship that would last. I’ll go ahead and spoil the surprise, this story is mine. Growing up I always noticed others and the close knit friends they seemed to have. I was a little jealous of their relationship. I prayed so many nights for God to send a good friend my way. It seemed like He didn’t hear or that it must be a very small matter compared to the great needs in the world. I desired a “best friend” so badly that I became friends with anyone who seemed to have anything in common with me. I never noticed until later the influence these friends would have on my character. Little by little, I picked up on their way of thinking, their speech, and their priorities.

It can be easy to find companions who are not committed to God. Someone once told me, “You are who you are around.” It’s so true! Proverbs 27:17 says, “As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.” God made us to desire friendship. Life can be tough, but God does not ask us to walk it alone. If we trust in Him fully He will give us travel buddies along the way. Good friends will keep us accountable to following God. I eventually found those friends in high school and in college. They have been a constant encouragement and have held me accountable to God’s Word.

Can I tell you something else? Even if you feel, as I did, that you don’t have any good close friends or never will find that best friend, you do have One. Christ is the greatest friend we could ever have. Exodus 33:11 describes how the Lord would speak to Moses face to face, as a man speaks to a friend. If you look through Proverbs, it is filled with friendship! Proverbs 18:24 describes a friend that is closer than a brother. Christ is a friend that will never leave when things get hard, or gossip about your struggles. He’s a friend that you can always rely on. Friendship is important to God. My Prayer for you is that you would seek friendships that challenge you to grow closer to God. I hope you stop to consider the influence those closest to you have on your character. It took me a long time to realize how important this was, and now I am so thankful for my dear friends.      

For Adults

What Do I Strive to Be as a Parent?

By: Melinda Walker

Yesterday my dad had a stroke. I didn’t know how bad it was, I didn’t know his condition, I didn’t know anything. But I did know I needed to get there. Living almost 15 hours away from them makes it difficult.  I needed to be there for my dad, to actually see him, to receive all the information I so desperately needed, but I also needed to be there for my mom, to let her know she wasn’t alone, to help in any way I could.

My dad is a wonderful Christian man who never meets a stranger and loves children. He is the best father who has always been my encourager and my hero. My mom is a wonderful Christian woman, a prayer warrior, who always took care of my needs growing up and provided a great example of a Christian mom that I try to be daily. When God made her, He knew there wouldn’t be anyone else like her. She was and still is totally faithful to her husband, family, church, friends, country, and most importantly, God. She lives a busy life.

What do I strive to be as a parent? I have 2 daughters, 22 & 25 years old. When they were younger, my goal wasn’t to be their best friend. Instead, it was to raise them how God wanted me to raise them. My husband and I dedicated them to the Lord when they were babies and we made a promise to God to raise them in a Christian home, teach them about God and His love, and to let Him have control of their lives. Were we perfect parents? Of course not. Far from it!  But I knew each and every day they were His and He gave them to us for a purpose.

My parents instilled in me the value of teaching my children about the love of God. They cared for me, taught me about Jesus, took me to church every time the doors were open, and met all my needs (not wants) and that means the world to me. So, I’ve tried to do as my parents did. Hopefully my girls have been able to see His light shining through me just as I saw through my parents.

As I sit here with my dad, reminiscing of what both he and my mom did for me growing up, I can tell you that, in my eyes, they did exactly what God expected them to do. The Bible they read to me, my brother, and sister came to life each day they lived their lives as we were growing up and even more now. “Love the Lord your God with all thy heart and with all thy soul and with all thy mind and with all thy strength” Mark 12:30 & “Love your neighbor as yourself” Mark 12:31. As they have shown me through their lives, I want my girls to see the same from me.

What do you strive to be as a parent? Who do you look to as an example and why? What will your children remember about you when they are grown? Do you live a life that is pleasing to Him and is it making an impact on your children’s lives? God doesn’t say we have to be perfect parents, we’re human. But we do need to always strive to be like Him. God gave us our children for a purpose. They need the example of good Christian parents to show them how God wants them to live…Totally faithful to Him.

Just as my parents took care of me as a child, now it’s my time to care for them when I am needed and to let them know that what they taught me as a child, is still deeply ingrained in me. Knowing that I still look to my God for healing, strength, comfort, and peace through this time can be a testament of their faithfulness to Him throughout my life.    

For Girls

Friends

By: Melinda Walker

One of my favorite songs when I was in high school (such a long time ago) was Michael W. Smith’s “Friends”. I was even able to sing it with one of my friends during our senior night for high school choir. The words of the chorus are:

“And friends are friends forever

If the Lord’s the Lord of them

And a friend will not say never

‘Cause the welcome will not end

Though it’s hard to let you go

In the Father’s hands we know

That a lifetime’s not too long

To live as friends”

I will have to admit, while I was in school, I had good friends and I, also, had bad friends. I still communicate with my good friends from time to time. But my other “friendships” faded once they found something or someone else better.

How do you decide who your friends are? Do you look at how pretty they are? What kind of car they drive? How much money they (or their parents) have? Or how popular they are?

How do you feel about your current friends? Do they really care about you? Do they lead you down a path that you don’t need to go? Or do they lift you up and keep you going on the right path as a Christian? Are they going to be your forever friend no matter where life takes you?

In this world there are people that lie, cheat, manipulate, steal, and do so many things that don’t match up with the Christian life. But yet, we still follow them and call them our friends. Now don’t get me wrong, I do believe God wants us to be kind and friendly to people, even those who do wrong. My daughters often called these friends “acquaintances” because they would talk to them during school and play sports with them, but never hung out with them because they did things that my girls didn’t agree with. And the “acquaintances” knew that, and for the most part, I think the “acquaintances” respected them for that. There has to be a line drawn so others can see that we, as Christians, don’t accept what they are doing and that we, as Christians, are different. How are you showing others you are different and that you love God if others don’t see you as any different than they are? 

I will admit, it’s hard to be different. And at times, it can be lonely. But God! He always provides us with what we need at the time we need it. If you feel lonely, God is always there for you. If you’re tired of being different, He can help you and encourage you. Proverbs 18:24 says “One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother”.  Never forget that God is there for you, whenever you need that friend to help you through everything in this life.

Let me encourage you, if you haven’t found that person yet, to pray for that friend who will stand by you, encourage & motivate you, be your friend through thick and thin, be your accountability partner, and love God and want to walk in His ways just like you. When you find that person, they will be your friend for a lifetime, no matter where God may lead you.

For Girls

The God of Our Emotions

By: Hannah Goucher

I’ve always been a very emotional person, even from a very young age. Watching sad movies or even Planet Earth always left me in tears.  I often allowed my emotions to get the best of me.

Fast forward to the present, and one can see the same struggle. Though not always due to sad movies, I often struggle with letting my emotions, disappointment, anxiety, and fear dictate or distort what I know to be true about God and His Word. As I grow in my relationship with the Father, though, I have learned that I cannot allow this to happen. ​

We, as Christians cannot allow our emotions to dictate and change what we know to be true about Who God is and what He has done. ​Our emotions are fleeting, and often contradict the very truth that comes from God’s Word. Jeremiah 17:9 says, “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?” (ESV). We must choose daily not to walk in the flesh, but to walk in the Spirit and allow Him to lead us. Do not allow your emotions to limit your understanding of Who God is and what He is doing. Rest in the fact that His truth is eternal and not based upon our fleeting feelings.

For Adults

Who Made the Trees

“Who made the trees? Did you make all the trees?”

He smiled gently, having answered the young girl’s question many times already. “No, child. Remember, I merely planted the seeds I was given. God has done the rest.”

The little girl nodded. “God did the rest. God made the trees.”

The man squeezed his granddaughter’s hand gently, “And each one of them has a name. Just like me and you.”

She turned her wide eyes upward, smiling broadly, “All of them?”

The two walked together, hand in hand, through the vast grove of trees as the grandfather discussed the name of each.

The tallest was named Upright for her honorable nature and the way she unfailingly pointed to the heavens.

One tree looked burdened, beaten down with withered branches and aged wood. Yet, he still stood, enduring all of life’s battles. For this, he was called Resilient.

Another tree had incredible, overarching branches, thick with leaves and moss. Any who sought Safe Haven, need only rest under her protective arms.

Then there was Longevity; a seemingly ageless tree with deep roots and a strong foundation.

The largest was called Life Giving, for within his mighty roots and throughout his vast wood, flowed a multitude of pure, plentiful, oxygen.

One tree was filled with an abundance of oranges, their lively color standing out against the stark green of leaves. Her name was Bears Fruit.

There were also smaller trees, still growing and changing, in the early years of their life. The Ever Growing Glade, the grandfather called them.

And these smaller trees leaned on a bigger tree: Support. She helped the smaller ones stay in line as they grew. Her long branches extended across a section of the grove, as if providing some sort of motherly embrace.

On the edge of the grove were lonely trees, more susceptible to drought or the terrors of a storm. This was home to trees called Grounded and Firmly Planted, whose roots were so thick and widespread no amount of wind could uproot them, or sun could parch them.

Nearby, were Stability and Sturdy, whose foundations had been disrupted by an earthquake long ago. The trees sat precariously on the edge of a steep drop off; but instead of giving way, their roots had grown down along the side wall of the drop off and into the ground below, safely securing their trunks.

After a while, they reached the end of the grove. Here, the grandfather stopped. He bent down until he was eye level with the girl, took her gently by the shoulders, and held her gaze. “You see, child, each one of these trees represent our lives in this world as children of God.” He pointed to her chest, “You and I? We are the seeds God has planted into this world.”

She stared at his face, listening intently.

“You are to be Upright: honest, honorable, and always Pointing to Christ. This life will bring you trials and tribulation; you must be Resilient against its temptations; you must Endure its painful arrows. You are called to be a Safe Haven, a wall of Protection and love for the poor, the needy, and the lost. Your life must exhibit Longevity; a life Firmly Planted, Deeply Rooted, and Grounded in Truth.”

The girl nodded; her brow furrowed in innocent concern.

“Oh, child,” He continued softly, “Your words and your actions must be Life Giving; every breath must magnify your Maker so that you are one who Bears Fruit; that through Christ working in you, others may receive His pure, plentiful, grace. Like the young trees, you must be Ever Growing in your knowledge of Christ, your love for Him, and your drive to be more like Him every day. You are to Support those around you…but not just those around you; your support must Extend to the ends of the Earth, for He has called you higher and He is worthy of that calling. You are to have Stability when the snares of evil try to destroy your foundation, your faith. You are to be Sturdy in the midst of bold-face mockery and deceit; when you are told your faith is a lie.”

Tears had begun to well up in the little girl’s eyes. One nervous hand rested across her lips, as if ready to stifle a sob.

“Oh, but, child,” The grandfather whispered. “You are not alone. Because who made the trees?”

The girl sniffled, blinking away the tears. Her hand dropped, “God made the trees.”

“God made the trees.” He repeated, “And He has created those trees with everything necessary to stand firmly in this life. He strengthens them to withstand that which would have them weakened.” He kissed her forehead, “And He has created you in the same way. In your weakness, He is Strong.”

The grandfather stood. The girl’s eyes followed him all the way up. She raised her hands and he lifted her into his arms. Together, they stared back at the trees, swaying softly in the afternoon breeze.

“I pray these trees over you every day.” The grandfather said. “In your waking. In your sleeping. In your coming. In your going. In your present and in your future.”

“When I’m playing?” She asked quietly.

He chuckled, “Yes, even when you’re playing.” With her in his arms, he turned from the grove and began walking down the hill.

The girl looked back, as if in deep thought. Then turned to look back at her grandfather. “Who made the playground?” She asked.

His laughter echoed throughout the beautiful grove of trees behind them.

For Girls

As Is Custom

By Claire Ryan

School can be tough.

It’s September; the days are becoming shorter, the nights longer, the weather is starting to cool, and school is in full swing. I remember being in middle and high school; I wanted to fit in, to be liked. I would do just about anything to make people laugh. I enjoyed school, but mainly for hanging out with friends and the occasional time I spent reading for fun. I also remember the mid-semester blues.

Where I attended high school, there were not a ton of like-minded individuals; not many people who loved the Lord and lived to serve Him. Which is why I could hardly wait for each school day to end so I could get home to my family. Following Jesus can sometimes be scary or difficult, especially when the distractions of school, friends, or popularity can cause a lack of focus.

We all may be familiar with the story of Job. “There was a man in the land of Uz whose name was Job, and that man was blameless and upright, one who feared God and turned away from evil.” (Job 1:1). He was described as “upright” and “blameless,” someone “who feared God.” Job did right in the eyes of the Lord. And God had so much trust in Job that He allowed Satan to reign horror down on the man’s life, knowing Job’s faith would not falter. Job lost everything, yet his allegiance remained with God.

How do we, in this fallen, treacherously sinful world, walk blameless and upright in Christ?

Consider Paul. A murderer-turned-forgiven through Christ. A feared Pharisee turned grace-covered Ambassador. “Now when they had passed through Amphipolis and Apollonia, they came to Thessalonica, where there was a synagogue of the Jews. And Paul went in, as was his custom, and on three Sabbath days he reasoned with them from the scriptures, explaining and proving that it was necessary for the Christ to suffer and to rise from the dead, and saying, ‘This Jesus, whom I proclaim to you, is the Christ.’” (Acts 17: 1-3)

Think about that phrase: “As was his custom.” Proclaiming Christ was what Paul was about; it was who he was. It was his traditional way of behaving. It occupied every action of his born-again life.

How do we walk blameless and upright in Christ?

When school gets challenging, tiring, or boring, or when we start to lose our focus, the Lord still has a plan for our daily lives: to be about Him and His business. To have our lives reflect His love in the way we live and treat others. To seek opportunities to grow in Him and share with others His daily mercies. It should simply be our custom to live in such a way.

Paul’s ministry changed the lives of thousands of individuals who chose to follow Christ in their day to day. Fruit was born of Paul’s labors. Fruit can be born of your faith, too.

In 2 Corinthians, Paul reminds us of his sufferings for the cause of Christ. He was imprisoned, beaten, stoned, shipwrecked, and faced countless other dangers. But because he planted his faith in Christ, he understood the worth behind his suffering.

Jesus is worthy of your time, your efforts, your service. He is worthy of your diligence in school, your respect for His name, and your love for His created people. He is worthy of your focus.

Yes, even when the days become shorter, the nights longer, and the weather cools. Even when school is in full swing and so many distractions are vying for your attention, seeking to separate you from Christ.

Just like Paul, be about the business of your Father in Heaven.

As is your custom.

For Girls

A Students Prayer by Thomas of Aquinas

Creator of all things, the true source of light and wisdom, the origin of all being, graciously let a ray of your light penetrate the darkness of my understanding.

Take from me the double darkness in which I have been born, an obscurity of sin and ignorance.

Give me a keen understanding, a retentive memory, and the ability to grasp things correctly and fundamentally.

Grant me the talent of being exact in my explanations and the ability to express myself with thoroughness and charm.

Point out the beginning, direct the progress, and help in the completion. I ask this through Jesus Christ our Lord.

Amen.

This prayer for a student was written by Thomas of Aquinas. I understand that this situation is true for many of us, as students in a classroom setting. I pray it is also true that even when we graduate into our careers that we are still students. I hope that we are always studying to be better family members, better disciples, better leaders, and better teachers to students of our own. Truly, we should recognize that we will always be students of some kind.
However, I know that many of us are still in the season of studying things like math and history and things of that sort, which may or may not be our favorite thing to study. I hope that we can keep Thomas Aquinas’ words in the front of our minds and we too pray that the Creator of these subjects helps us understand our work, and be steadfast, striving for excellence.

For Adults

13 Things Moms Can Do to Help Their Daughters Survive and Thrive in This School Year

By: Elizabeth Hill

Being a preteen or a teen is tough. But add in school and all the ups and downs that come with it and it becomes even tougher.

You know it, I know it, and your daughter REALLY knows it. So what can you do to help your daughter through these years?

It pains me to say I’m not a teenager anymore (and I hate to admit that it’s been a little while since I was). But thankfully it’s not such ancient history that I’ve forgotten everything. I remember both the pain and excitement of my middle/high school years.

With that in mind, I’m going to share with you 13 things you can do to help your daughter survive and thrive in the school year.

A lot of these suggestions are things that my parents did for me while I was in school. And yes, I did call my mom and talk these over with her. I’m not too old for that!

  1. Help your daughter study.

When I began thinking about the things my mom did for me in school, this is one of the first things I remembered. My mom would quiz me for tests, and it was always made me feel better prepared. Of course, your daughter needs to develop studying skills, but reviewing her test material together is a great way to bond and to keep up with what she is learning in school.

2. Encourage excellence, not perfection.

With schoolwork, extracurricular activities, leadership roles, etc., teach your daughter to put in the effort and do her best. But don’t demand perfection. Excellence is giving it your best effort with the time, resources, and skills you’ve been given. Perfection is pushing beyond reasonable limits to attain the highest possible outcome. Of course, you want your daughter to do her best, but you don’t want her to become burned out in an endless push to be the best. Teach her the proper balance.

3. Support her extracurricular activities.

Go to her games and recitals. Cheer her on. Let her know you’re proud of her.

4. Share your stories of your school years.

While your school experiences aren’t necessarily the same as your daughter’s, she will benefit from hearing your tales of failure, success, excitement, heartbreak, embarrassment, etc. The experiences of your past help your daughter relate to you and give her reassurance that someone else knows what she’s feeling.

5. Let your daughter know she can talk to you about anything, including the hard and embarrassing stuff.

I can’t imagine what girls are facing in school right now. Your daughter needs someone in her corner who will tell her the truth. Be approachable, not condemning. Cultivate a relationship where she feels safer coming to you with questions than going to the internet, friends, or even teachers.

6. Be willing to talk about relationships.

Your daughter has a natural desire for relationship; it’s part of a girl’s DNA! Whether it’s friendships, sibling relationships, crushes, or boyfriends, she is searching for love and acceptance. Walk beside her as relationships change. Share godly wisdom and personal experience with her. She needs someone to talk to, and the best person is you!

7. Teach your daughter how to present herself well.

She wants to make a good impression on the first day of school and beyond, and you can help her do that. No, you don’t have to grab a book and place it on her head for balance practice. Practical things like good hygiene and flattering makeup techniques, and hair styles will help her tremendously. Teaching your daughter to find clothes that both make her feel confident and demonstrates she has self-respect.

8. Eat together as a family.

I can’t remember many meals that I didn’t share with my family. You may not get a lot of words out of her at breakfast (if your daughter is anything at all like me). But consistent, shared mealtimes can be a constant for your daughter providing daily opportunities to share what’s going on in and around her life.

9. Don’t treat your daughter like she’s still a little kid.

Grant her a certain measure of freedom. Let her take the car to the school event or to get coffee with friends. As much as you want (and need) to be a part of your daughter’s life, there’s also a time where she needs to be on her own. And that’s a good thing. You don’t want her living with you forever, do you? She needs some independence to prepare her for the quickly approaching, after-high-school years.

10. Provide stability and set expectations.

I know I just said to give your daughter freedom, but she also needs to know that someone is in charge. While she may gripe and complain about your rules, she can’t deny the sense of safety and protection that comes with knowing her godly, consistent parents are leading their family with integrity. Your daughter needs to know the boundaries. It is within those boundaries she will find greater freedom to live, grow, and mature.

11. Don’t pressure your daughter into thinking that middle/high school is the only high point of her life.

While we can look back on our school days and remember how nice it was to have fewer responsibilities, we know the other stages of life come with lots of joy and excitement, too. Yes, encourage your daughter to soak it all in, but don’t make “making the most of high school” an added stressor. She can enjoy this while also looking forward to other good things to come.

12. Help her as she plans her future.

If your daughter wants to go to college, help her think through her plans, then find and apply for scholarships. However, there’s no need to push college as the only option. She may have other goals or dreams that don’t require college, and that’s okay! The most important thing is that she follows a God-honoring path that complements the skills and abilities with which He has blessed her.

13. Let your daughter fight some battles.

 Don’t always clean up her messes (literally or metaphorically) nor fix her problems. You should always be there to love and guide her through difficulties. She should not face major problems on her own. But you can’t just jump in and take care of everything. She needs to be able to figure out things on her own.  If she never has to learn things or face consequences for her actions, she will be stuck in a rut facing the same problem repeatedly. She will wait for someone to fix it for her. Kids with helicopter parents are in for a huge, brutal awakening the first time they must do anything on their own. Don’t set your daughter up for that kind of failure.