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Remaining Calm in the Storm

by Rachel Bryant

Have you ever been outside and suddenly caught in a huge thunderstorm? My family was on vacation, walking around in a downtown area, when a scary thunderstorm suddenly started out of nowhere. In the deluge of rain, thunder clapping, and lightning flashing, my whole family ran down the sidewalk trying to find shelter. As we were crossing a street, my youngest cousin couldn’t take it anymore. She stopped in the middle of the crosswalk, planted her feet, and started crying and screaming, refusing to move! We all felt the same way but had to keep moving to find refuge from the storm.

Do you know the story of the disciples in the boat during a big storm? (Read Mark 4:35–41) Basically, they were in the middle of a storm that could overturn their boat and kill them. They were terrified! They probably wanted to cry and scream too. But Jesus was there! He commanded the storm, “Peace, be still,” and instantly, the storm calmed. Amazing!

During the storms in our life, which sometimes feel terrifying, wouldn’t this be nice?! Jesus may not literally be in our boat and may not always make our storms disappear instantly, but He has given us His power to make it through the storms and remain calm.

When I am dealing with crises or storms of life, I try to focus on the Scriptures and God’s truths. I want to give you two of the most helpful Scriptures for me. What are some Scriptures you cling to? If you don’t know any, start reading His Word, and He will show you some, I promise!

2 Timothy 1:7: “God did not give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind” reminds me first and foremost that God does not want us to give in to our fears. He doesn’t want them to control us. Having a “spirit of fear” indicates more than just a fleeting worry but feels more like a “dwelling” on the fears. This is so easy to do – you know how this feels – always running the fears and worries through our minds, a constant play-by-play of the dreaded “what ifs” of all the bad possibilities.

Stop! God did not create us to be in constant worry and fear! But the last part of this verse is super helpful in these spiraling out of control fearful thoughts – God gave us a sound mind! God gave us the mind to be rational and reasonable and put a stop to the thoughts from the Devil of the fears that he loves to pound us with. This sound mind gives us the ability to say, “Stop!”

So then, if we can get ourselves to stop the fear and worries, then what? That’s where my second verse comes in. Philippians 4:8: Finally, “Sisters,” whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.” Once you can put a stop to the crisis-mode thinking, fill your thoughts with these things.

Sometimes I focus on just the first one – what. is. true. When you are in a storm of life, it can be hard to find things that are “honorable” or “lovely,” so focus on the truth, which comes from God. If you can’t find any other good truth in life, here’s one: the God of the universe loves YOU and wants to help you through this crisis!

Putting this formula together, we can stop the spirit of fear in its tracks and then use our sound mind to focus our thoughts on truth. This clarity allows us to think through the crisis in front of us and remain calm to determine what needs to be done. Our storm may not immediately calm as it did for the disciples, but we can clearly see how to find refuge. Ultimately, our shelter is in God, and He will help you and offer His peace during your storm, whatever it is.

Challenge: If you are new to Bible reading, or even if you have read it “all your life,” – read through the book of Psalms. The men who wrote the Psalms were going through crises and storms. But they were praising God for the peace He offers and that He is always our refuge, a shelter in the time of storm!

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Always Growing

In Matthew 7, we are cautioned to observe the fruits grown by all people. Matthew writes we should beware of those who come graciously disguised but are deceitful having intentions to harm. We should know these imposters, he says, based on their fruit.

This concept seems abstract, but it is true, every person has a fruitful life in some way. Thankfully, we do not have fruit growing from our arms and legs. Instead, Jesus uses this analogy to explain that our lives show the products (fruits) of our decisions. For example, those who practice their sport for hours and hours may produce winning scores for their teams. Thus, the fruit they bear from their hard work would be a win.

Interestingly, the passage never suggests that our lives bear no fruit, but only that our fruit is either good or bad. This challenges us to always be aware of what we grow and cultivate with our time, thoughts, and actions.

John 15 gives further explanation reminding us that we, as branches, are to be rooted in the Vine, who is Jesus. It’s interesting to note the trunk nor vine is where the fruit grows. Instead the trunk feeds and supports the branches. John tells us when we rely on Jesus, the True Vine, we will bear much good fruit. Others will know this by observing our fruit. Combining these parables reminds us we are to practice what we wish to bear. This practice requires us to be rooted in the One we want to resemble, our True Vine, Jesus Christ.

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Making Good Choices

by Diana Bryant

Have you ever thought about how many decisions you make each day? It starts with “do I get up when my alarm goes off or hit snooze?” Then you decide what to wear, how to do your hair, what to eat for breakfast. It continues throughout the day. Many decisions have no real significant consequences, but other choices can have much farther reaching effects. You know what happens when you choose to watch one more episode of your favorite show instead of studying for your math test. But do you realize what it can mean to your future when you choose one group of friends over another? Or when you choose to make time each day to read your Bible?

The truth is, life is really a series of choices and consequences.  All choices have outcomes, ranging from insignificant to life changing. Choices can complicate your life or make it easier. Choices can affect your health and your relationships, and some choices can have spiritual and eternal significance.

How do we grow in our ability to make good choices? What guidelines can we use to make the best choices more often?

**Be intentional about spending time in God’s Word. Every day, even if it’s only a few verses a day. The principles and wisdom in Scripture will take root and make good choices easier to recognize. Packed full of wisdom, the book of Proverbs tells us that God wants us to delight in truth and knowledge. Reading a Proverb each day will go a long way towards building up a storehouse of wisdom to help you make good choices.

**Learn to think past the present choice to the probable outcome of the choice. “If I choose to go where friends want me to go, will it be a good environment, or can I imagine problems that might come up?” “If I send this text, what reaction will it cause when it’s read?” “How will I feel if my parents or others find out about this possible action?”

**Learn from other godly examples in your life. Watch their lives and habits, pay attention to how they spend their time. See the choices they make. Ask for their advice when you’re not sure which way to go. Believe it or not, your Mom, Sunday school teacher, and even your Grandma has made some of the very same choices that give you trouble. They’ve learned a thing or two by the outcomes of their choices.  They would be glad to share some of that wisdom with you. You might even hear some good stories!

**Learn the difference between choices that only seem important—like which pair of jeans to buy, and choices that really are important—like choosing friends who encourage you and help you grow instead of causing you to go in directions you know are not right. Give more thought to making decisions that have bigger consequences than the choices that are not as significant.

**Make your own choices, don’t be manipulated or forced to make decisions based on pressure from someone else. Many times, uncomfortable feelings of pressure from someone is an indication you need to think twice or seek advice.

**Learn from choices you make—both good and bad, and apply those lessons to situations you find yourself in. Remember how certain choices made you feel. Think about how decisions you’ve made affected your life. You’ll notice good choices most often result in better relationships, better health, less trouble and drama in your life, and more progress in whatever you happen to be working toward.

Proverbs 3:13-14 says, “Blessed is the one who finds wisdom and the one who gets understanding. For the gain from her is better than gain from silver and her profit better than gold”. You’ll be making choices all your life. Learn now to make good ones!

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S.U.D.s

You may be asking yourself “what is S.U.Ds?” S.U.Ds stands for Seemingly Unimportant Decisions. My very intelligent mom/Sunday school teacher taught a lesson on this one time. This lesson was something that not only impacted my life, but also the lives of others who were in that class.

 S.U.Ds are those choices we make in our daily life that seem to not be a major deal, but over time, these small choices end up snowballing and can have major, long-term impacts on our life. Some examples of S.U.Ds are:

  • I will skip church tonight because I would rather hang out with a friend/play a sport/just don’t feel like going.
  •  I will go to this party I shouldn’t go to because I am in control, I will be fine, and I can resist temptation.
  •  I will lie about what I did so I don’t get into trouble. These examples may seem silly, but that is the point.

The seemingly unimportant decisions we make will have consequences. Skipping church once can make you start to think skipping church more and more often is okay, and then you eventually quit. Going to parties that may have things you should not be around can make you fall into temptation and you can fall away or hurt your testimony. Lying to get out of trouble may seem like a benefit at first because you get out of a punishment, but then you find yourself lying more and becoming more deceptive.

Proverbs 2:11-13 says, “Discretion will watch over you, understanding will guard you, delivering you from the way of evil, from men of perverted speech, who forsake the paths of uprightness to walk in the ways of darkness” (ESV). I know this seems excessive, but it is so true, small decisions can make big impacts on our lives. The book of Proverbs has always been my favorite book of the Bible because it gives great wisdom on how to make good choices in life.


Caitlin Hayes is from Columbus, Ohio. She has a Masters of Science in Psychology from Tiffin University. Caitlin has spent many years at her church teaching all ages in Sunday School and youth group and is the nursery leader for her church. She gives her time to missions and has worked as a facilitator for Impulse International Missions for the past nine years. Caitlin is passionate about youth and helps them learn how to find who they are in Christ. In her free time, she likes to travel, watch documentaries, and spend time with her two awesome nephews.

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5 Tips from Teens

by Lainey and Ansley Batts

  Building friends in youth group or at school is great, but what about building friendships with the older women in our church or community? It can be an intimidating experience, so intimidating that most of the time we just avoid it. Here are some tips that can make building relationships with older women much easier.

1. You have to actually talk to them. Older women aren’t so different than teen girls. They have different interests and personalities. Some are super outgoing, and some are super shy. Just being in the same room with them isn’t enough to build a relationship. Taking the initiative and starting up a conversation is the first step to building a relationship.

2. Listen too. It is often hard to see the women in our lives as more than moms, grandmothers, teachers, or coaches, but they are real people. Ask them about their lives. You may find out some surprising things that they have experienced.

3. Know that they will mess up. We all make mistakes. When they mess up don’t write them out of your life. If they hurt your feelings, or say something uncaring, talk to them. Face the problem. Maybe you won’t have a super close relationship in the future but talking about it means you will be able to have a relationship.

4. Be willing to teach. Be willing to learn. Teaching an older woman about something you love is a great way to build your relationship. Or maybe you are interested in learning something new? Ask an older woman in your life to teach you. You may not find a hobby you love, but it will help you build your relationship.

5. It is worth it. Putting in the work to build relationships with older women is worth it. Older women have been there. They can share wisdom from their experience and that wisdom can help you avoid problems in the future. Learning to build relationships across the generations is a great life skill and makes life so much more enjoyable. It can be really intimidating, but in the end, it is so worth it.

Lainey and Ansley Batts loved attending Shine! Nashville 2019. Lainey is 15 and spends her days reading tons of books and catching Pokemon. Ansley is 13 and spends her free time studying classical ballet at the Centennial Performing Arts Studio in Nashville.

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Serving Your Season

“Faithfully Serve the Season God Has Placed You In.”

While quarantine has been a time of struggle for some, it has been a time of reflection and consistency for me. I heard the title quote above in a sermon not long ago, and since then it has completely transformed my mindset—especially during this quarantine season.

One of my favorite Bible characters is Joseph. That guy went through the pit (literally), and through it all, sought and trusted the Lord. I’ve always found it encouraging to read his story because you can really see God’s hand over his entire life. However, as Joseph was experiencing the various scenarios, he probably felt doubt creep in. Perhaps he wondered why God was taking so long to fulfill his calling and desires he had dreamed about as a boy. Even though he couldn’t understand why, he trusted that God was his deliverer. He faithfully served from the prison to the palace. In the end, God used the situations Joseph went through to shape him into who he needed to be to serve a nation, forgive his brothers, and ultimately bring a whole lot of glory to the Lord!

I struggle with contentment. I am very goal oriented, and I am a planner. I have it all figured out in my head–where I want to be in so many years, what I want to achieve, and how I want to see the results of those plans now! I’m impatient, and I’ve learned that a lot of times I rely on my own strength and plans too much.

This summer, I had it all planned out, like no joke, May through August was pretty much set-up and booked in February. I had an idea of what was going to happen and was super excited about it.  BUT, let me tell you, COVID-19 did a number on me! I was looking forward to my plans (plans I felt were going to lead to new friendships, encouraging others, and bringing God glory), but God pushed the pause button. This left me feeling very much like, “Okay God, you have my attention. Please show me what I need to do to get my life going again.” And, during all these thoughts, do you know what I realized I needed to do? STOP GOING! I needed to stop worrying about the future. I needed to stop preparing and over-planning every aspect of every day, and instead faithfully serve in the season I’m planted in.

So, here’s what this looked like for me—I started waking up and spending the day with God (2-3 sermons a day sometimes). I started listening to podcasts, spending a few hours singing worship songs, going on long drives to talk to God, and the list doesn’t end there. I imagine this is more like how Adam spent his time in the Garden of Eden, and it was so refreshing to just be still and bask in the presence of the Lord. I so encourage y’all to do this! I also spent time with my family. I made new memories and learned new things about all of them.

As I intentionally focused on the “now” and what I could do with it, I began to see doors open and dreams resurface that I had pushed aside as “impossible.” My heart began to heal toward hurts and insecurities from my past. I learned to be kinder and more others oriented. I learned forgiveness and was given opportunities to show love. I’m not saying I’m at all perfect—I have a long way to go—but looking back I see that these small stepping stones look a lot like Joseph’s story. God is molding me. I don’t have to do any preparing on my future because God is doing that for me. All I must do is serve! All I must do is praise and worship, and God provides! What a freedom! 

Basically, what I’m saying is that God isn’t asking you to have it all figured out. He’s asking you to faithfully serve Him in everything you do in the season He has planted you in. And, through that, He’s going to use it for the good of His Kingdom! The phase of life you’re in may not look at all like what you wanted it to look like, but don’t lose hope! If you are seeking and striving to serve like Jesus, God will work and move through you!

I hope this can be an encouragement to you guys to look at your priorities and see if being a servant is one of them. It’s one of the biggest blessings we’ve been given, really.

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Krista Lindsay is an upcoming junior at Welch College. She is from Red Bay, Alabama. As a business major, she has recently started the journey of entrepreneurship by launching her own online clothing store, Ellora Boutique, to help girls of all ages find modest boutique style clothing at an affordable price. Krista’s favorite thing to do is hang out with her friends or family, especially if they are eating Chick-fil-A or getting coffee. When she is not working at her local Loft or singing with Rejoice Ministry Team, Krista loves playing music, baking, going on outdoor adventures, and meeting new people. 

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Conversations With Mom/Mentor

Once upon a time is probably one of the greatest opening lines ever because it has endless possibilities. As a child nighttime stories were not just a ploy to stay awake longer, they were opportunities to learn about the world and the ones around us. That connection does not have to end with bedtime tales. All it requires is sitting down with your mom, grandma, aunt, or mentor and ask some fun questions.

I love asking these women in my life questions. Sometimes I ask silly one’s like, “If you could make any dessert healthy which would you choose?” But sometimes I ask them questions that I hope will offer wise advice to use in my life. Questions are a fantastic way to get to know someone and connect with them in ways you never thought possible.

Here are five questions I pray will open the door for connections between you and influential women in your life.

  • What did you and your friends do for fun when you were my age?
  • What is one of your most embarrassing moments?
  • If given the opportunity to do anything you want for a day, what would you do?
  • What is something God is teaching you right now?
  • What would you say to your 17-year-old self if you could call her on the phone today?

Have you ever thought about why movies, television, and books are a billion-dollar industry? It’s simple; everyone loves a good story. Asking questions that allow people to share a glimpse of their past or a bit of their truth is a wonderful way to learn their personal story. I can almost guarantee hearing their story will allow you to connect with them in a way you never expected and find ways to learn from them to better yourself.

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The Battle Is The Lord’s

by Claire Ryan

The battle is the Lord’s.

This line plays over and over in my head, like a song on repeat. It gives me the extra push I need to make it through the day. It calms my wandering heart whenever I am confused. It soothes my restless spirit in the midst of fear. With an assertive breath, I can breathe in His power and His confidence; for my strength alone is weakness.

The idea of a battle is intriguing to me. I pride myself keeping up to date on all the action movies, books, or television shows. It’s not good unless someone is thrown into a perilous, life or death situation or bleeding. If someone isn’t getting head-butted or roundhouse kicked, you can count me out.

My imagination is fairly extensive, so it doesn’t take much for me to imagine myself as an elfin warrior, leading my troops into battle. Or a Jedi in training, seeking advice from Master Yoda. I’m the fiercest soldier and the bravest trainee. There isn’t a fight I face that can’t be overcome with the heart of a champion.

However, not all conflicts look the same. Sometimes, real life battles are a whole different fight altogether. And when they stand in my face, challenging my bravery, I often cower back in reluctance and fear, frantically searching for someone else to see my desperation and come to my aid.

Throughout the day, I think often of the Lord and His mysterious ways. I don’t understand how He works, or why He chooses to work the way He does; but I don’t have to know. If my finite mind could comprehend the infinite God, then He would cease to be so infinite. At school, there are times I am paralyzed with anxiety. On the outside, I appear calm, collected. But on the inside, I am battling fear, worry, stress, confusion, and loneliness. I am going toe to toe with the devil and his crafty words; the way he bends them to make me believe a certain way is terrifying. He knows my weakest points, using them to his advantage and my downfall.

My mind flashes back to a conversation I had with Pawpaw one morning, during our daily coffee talks. We had discussed my family and how they were all doing. Pawpaw had spread before me a blanket of wisdom that I would later share with my sisters. I begin packing up to leave, sliding my backpack around my shoulders, grabbing my coffee cup with one hand, and slipping my phone in my back pocket with the other.

I am on the verge of turning to face Pawpaw, planning to give him a hug and a light kiss on the cheek when…

“Here’s your sword.” He states simply.

Time seems to stand still, the already quiet house becoming suddenly quieter, as if the air itself had ceased moving. I turn slowly, a sudden peace filling my agitated mind.

Pawpaw’s arm is outstretched towards me, his hand firmly grasping my Bible. I wasn’t going to forget it; it goes with me every day. But Pawpaw’s matter-of-fact statement gave me such assurance in that moment. It brought me back to what was truly important in this life.

I smile up at him. Then, without a word, I take my sword.

Ephesians 6:13-17: “Therefore, take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand firm. Stand therefore, having fastened on the belt of truth, and having put on the breastplate of righteousness,and, as shoes for your feet, having put on the readiness given by the gospel of peace. In all circumstances take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming darts of the evil one; and take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.”

There’s no telling what we may face in “the evil day.” A body weak from sickness, a blinding headache, hidden secrets, frustrating co-workers, strict time crunches, a lost loved one, a hurting child, disturbing news, terrible bosses, negativity, or a fearful countenance. It is easy for these moments to become overwhelming, to become too much for us to bare. That’s why it’s so important to wake up each morning and take up the whole armor of God. We fasten our Truth belt, slide on the Righteous breastplate, shod our feet with the Gospel of Peace, firmly grasp our shield of Faith, protect our minds with the Salvation helmet, and boldly wield the Spirit’s sword; that we may be able to withstand that evil day.

For the battle is the Lord’s.

Claire lives in Hendersonville, Tennessee. She is in her third-year teaching and currently teaches 7th grade English. She is the assistant women’s basketball coach at Welch College. Her hobbies include reading, writing, athletics, and time spent with family and friends. Coffee is her go-to and donuts are one of the major food groups. And, as always, ROLL TIDE!

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Communicating with Adults: How Hard Can It Be?

Communication. Ugh! Let me tell you, when I was younger, communication was not my strongest attribute. Why? Because I felt like I didn’t have anything important to say. I was afraid to speak in front of a group of people and one on one with certain individuals other than my friends. I didn’t want them to think I was stupid or find out I had flaws.

Talking with adults was the hardest. Adults are just that—adults. How are they going to help me with anything? They don’t know anything about me. They’re not interested in anything I have to say. They’re only interested in adult stuff. They don’t understand anything I’m going through.

As the mother of two girls and wife of a youth pastor turned senior pastor, I can honestly say, adults do care. We are interested. We want the best for you. We want to know more about you and help you with anything. Because, I know it’s hard to imagine but, we, at one time, were teenagers and we know being a teenager is hard. It may have been a different time with different things going on in the world, but it was still hard.

Just like teenagers, it can be difficult for adults to communicate. Sometimes it’s not the best scenario when adults and teenagers communicate, but why is that?

Have you ever talked to someone about something important and they looked uninterested or yawned while you were talking? Or they rolled their eyes when they disagreed? Or they seemed to ignore you by looking at their phone or looking away instead of looking at you like they were interested while you spoke? How did that make you feel? Body language and facial expressions can be a HUGE form of communication. We use our bodies to communicate when we don’t even know. How we stand, our facial expressions, and even our eyes communicate to others how we feel.  A lot of times watching someone’s body language isn’t the most inviting and it makes you want to run away from the entire conversation.

As teenagers, it seems so easy to talk with friends about anything—clothes, hair, make-up, boys, school, music, social media, movies, Netflix. There’s so much out there to discuss. But when it comes to communicating with adults, well, that’s a whole new ballgame. Or is it? We like some of those things too.

One of the big things to know about adults is that we are just like you, but with more experience. That’s why it’s nice to know you can talk with an adult because, more than likely, they’ve had an experience just like you or they know of someone who has. Adults can give great advice; just give them a chance.

When you have a problem and you look to an adult for the answer, it lets them know you trust them. When you communicate with a person for the first time, it may be hard to let go of some things that are personal. But as you continue to communicate and start getting to know that person, it becomes easier to let go and just talk.

The greatest man that walked on this earth, who became a teenager, an adult, and experienced so much should be the first person to go to with your successes, failures, needs, wants, and so much more. He is with you all the time and He knows you. His name is Jesus and He is the greatest communicator and listener of all time. But you know what? He has prepared someone to be there for you when you need it. It could be Mom, Dad, Sunday School teacher, Youth Pastor, or even the Youth Pastor’s spouse. If you don’t know who it is, pray and ask God to reveal that person to you. Pray for courage to talk to them. Who knows, the person God has prepared, that adult you thought you would never talk to, might turn out to be your greatest encourager and blessing.

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5-6